EXCEPTIONALLY ORDINARY

         It is said that the secret of life is finding joy in the ordinary, but is it okay to be just normal and live a life that is complete and good. Is that enough? I guess for some it is. But then it got me thinking, just because people want normal lives doesn’t mean they get it. Just because people want to be normal doesn’t mean they are. What matters the most is what you think of yourself. It’s perspective that matters. So, as usual, I did a little digging and it has led me to this beautiful piece of humanity that we fail to acknowledge of being just exceptionally ordinary.

                                         

                                      When a question comes up asking “Who here is normal?” Would any of you put your hands up? There may be many who do, but think for a moment if you actually are, or if that’s just a way of fitting in. We desperately want to fit in with the rest of the world that we are ready to lose ourselves, our uniqueness and our identity over it. But is it really worth it? Is fitting in really worth losing yourself? We as human beings have this in built nature in ourselves, we thrive with one another and we survive with one another. That is just how we are made. It is with people that we find joy, happiness, pain, sorrow, love, hate, etc.… We need other people around us to ensure us that we are where we belong and that we are one among them. We need people to love, to cherish, to lean on, to protect, etc.… This is why we have this undying need of wanting to fit in. This is why we need to know that we belong cause like it or not that’s what makes us feel alive. But where does it lead? Do we end up being ourselves or just a version of ourselves? We have this feeling of wanting to be ordinary when we are not.       

                                       

         

         How to be normal? Who is a normal person? Someone who is born with struggles, works hard in life to survive, makes it to the end, lives a complete life and in the end dies having lived a peaceful, happy life. Or is it someone who is born with a silver spoon, helps people grow along the way, makes their parents proud and lives a life of luxury and contentment. What is normal? How do you define it? Everyone of us is unique, so which one of us is normal? These questions are never answered because I don’t believe they do have an answer because being normal, going with the flow, fitting in, they are outdated. This world we live in today has grown so much that people are willing to accept that not everyone is normal.

                                       

              Every one of us has our flaws and that is okay. We might have physical disabilities or be mentally weak or just feel like we don’t belong. Like we were not meant to be here, but that feeling inside of you, that you don’t fit in, that’s alright because not everybody is meant to fit in.

               I was once asked if I was normal and I instantly said “NO”. I did not why, I just did and that did not bother me. It did surprise me though, because I often find myself wanting to fit in because I never feel like I belong. It always felt like I was outside looking in but then the next question arose, asking “Why?” And my answer was quite simple. I've always known that I was weird, crazy and quirky. But I realized that I simply didn’t want to be normal. But why, I never knew. So I asked the same question to a bunch of people I knew and the answers I got surprised me because some said they were normal and some denied just like I did but some did not know and some were lost. I know people and I have come across people who are just exceptionally ordinary. But being ordinary is fine as they live a complete, normal, happy life, but that is not the case for everyone. Everyone of us is unique, some of us exceptionally ordinary, some of us crazy and some extraordinary, but no one is normal. Because the very definition of normal seems to be different for every person. So how is just one person normal? 

                                       

                                     The next time you think to yourself if you’re normal, tell yourself you’re not and that is okay, because you don’t change the world by being normal, but being you and you are extraordinary.

“What is normal? Normal is only ordinary; mediocre. Life belongs to the rare, exceptional individual who dares to be different.”

                                                                                                              - Virginia C. Andrews

Who here is normal?  

Who here wants to be?

Blog by: Sheryl Rajakumar

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